Are you really who you think you are? I have recently been told by a dear friend something about myself that I didn't realize. I was told that I was like someone that I despise. When I say despise, I mean I despise their ways. I love this person more than they will ever know but I cannot and do not like what they stand for in this life. I would give almost anything if they would change, but they have been this way all their life and it looks as though they are going to go to the grave unchanged.
What disturbed me about my friend's comment was that they were very serious. I realize this is only one person's opinion but they are usually a pretty good judge of character. I suppose I was hurt more than anything, but it has given me a wake up call. A wake up call to try harder to be who I thought I was instead of who I am. Has this ever happened to you?
I know that everyone is not going to like me and that I can rub some people the wrong way, but to be like a person I despise is not satisfactory in this life or any other life. I also know that I will never be perfect and I can most definitely live with that truth.
Have you given much thought as to how others see you. Could you possibly think you have a blue personality (fun loving, spontaneous, enthusiastic, creative) when in fact you are more green (organizer, planner, persistent) in the eyes of others. Can this present a problem for you? Sure it can! What if you thought you were a yellow (dependable, team player, patient, supportive) and come to find out that others see you as a red (indecisive, losing control easily, control freak). How devastating of a character blow would that be to you? Might not recover!
It is important that we know who we are and that we portray the right characteristics. Should we listen to our friends and even our enemies to see what they are saying about us? Absolutely! Should we take their opinions with a grain of salt? Sometimes! I just know one thing, we cannot be a good mentor if we do not know who we are and what we believe.
I am going to work on me. Are you willing to take an honest look at yourself and make the needed improvements in your life before your good friend hits you with some truths you didn't realize? Hopefully this post will be your wake up call.
What disturbed me about my friend's comment was that they were very serious. I realize this is only one person's opinion but they are usually a pretty good judge of character. I suppose I was hurt more than anything, but it has given me a wake up call. A wake up call to try harder to be who I thought I was instead of who I am. Has this ever happened to you?
I know that everyone is not going to like me and that I can rub some people the wrong way, but to be like a person I despise is not satisfactory in this life or any other life. I also know that I will never be perfect and I can most definitely live with that truth.
Have you given much thought as to how others see you. Could you possibly think you have a blue personality (fun loving, spontaneous, enthusiastic, creative) when in fact you are more green (organizer, planner, persistent) in the eyes of others. Can this present a problem for you? Sure it can! What if you thought you were a yellow (dependable, team player, patient, supportive) and come to find out that others see you as a red (indecisive, losing control easily, control freak). How devastating of a character blow would that be to you? Might not recover!
It is important that we know who we are and that we portray the right characteristics. Should we listen to our friends and even our enemies to see what they are saying about us? Absolutely! Should we take their opinions with a grain of salt? Sometimes! I just know one thing, we cannot be a good mentor if we do not know who we are and what we believe.
I am going to work on me. Are you willing to take an honest look at yourself and make the needed improvements in your life before your good friend hits you with some truths you didn't realize? Hopefully this post will be your wake up call.
Sometimes people don't really get to know the real "us" because they don't have the ability to think the way we do. I for one sometimes don't show much emotion and would rather contain them rather than showing to people.
ReplyDeleteTo Rob
ReplyDeleteI believe you are right my friend. The only way to get to know someone better is to befriend them and then hang out with them on a regular basis so you can truly discover their likes and dislikes, as well as their reactions to others. Most people don't really know me and probably won't by their own choice but that's okay because I can't get to know everyone in a very personal way either. I do thank you for taking the time to visit and leave a comment.
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It's been awhile, but years ago took one of those management style and personality test and there weren't too many things that came as a surprise in the results. Though I suppose as we get older some of that might change. My daughter has taken several, and the group she works with discuss results so they best see how to work well together. It's helpful to a point.
ReplyDeleteI might be too old to change? Can an old dog learn new tricks? Can someone go against themselves so to speak? My gut, says no. I think we can alter certain behaviors that we might become aware of; but that really might be the extent to which we can change? Interesting
Sandy
To Sandy
ReplyDeleteI think any of us can change if we truly want to. That is the key, if we want to, but most won't because we are content with who and what we are today. Change can be good and it can be bad also. I thank you for taking the time to read my post and visit my blog.
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well, one thing i know, is that people are always quick to judge others, myself included. a lot of people who are my friends now have told me they initially despised me until they got to me , then they realized that i was not the 'arrogant idiot' they thought i was! people just judge, but if they take time to study before they do, then maybe they would not get it wong so much! anyway, back to waht you talked about, we are not perfect and sometimes the faults we see in others are usually fauls we are guilty of, but which we are too blind to see. nice post.
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Great post my friend. Sometimes the hardest thing to do is to see that man in the mirror and realize that we may not always like what we see.
ReplyDeleteThen the gift of feedback comes in to play. Your friend loves you enough to be honest with you and share what they see giving you a huge opportunity to do something different in your life. That is truly awesome.
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Ashley Bolivar
To Stanis
ReplyDeleteI just want to thank you for taking the time to read my post and make this wonderful comment. None of us are perfect that's for sure and we need to accept folks just the way they are because what we see on the outside doesn't always reflect what is on the inside.
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To Ashley
ReplyDeleteThanks my friend for visiting and leaving this great comment. Only a true friend would tell you what a jerk you are. I just thank the Lord that I'm not like that all the time. I don't always like what I see in me and I'm sure I'm not the only one that feels that way.
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I think as humans, we have put on two masks for ourselves. The nice, polite, and likable for the public to see mask, and the not so nice, true-self, all-me type at home..
ReplyDeleteSometimes we are not who we are, but rather the mask we're wearing at the moment..
Great post to ponder upon!
To BC Doan
ReplyDeleteThanks for taking time out of your busy schedule to read this post and make the wonderful comment. I think we do wear maybe even more than two masks to fit the occasion. Inside we are still the same person no matter what. If we could just learn to look on the inside instead of seeing only what is on the outside, I'm sure we would have completely different opinions of one another.
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I know what you mean about being described as someone you don't necessarily like. I've had the same done to me.
ReplyDeleteI don't really fit in any of the "color" profiles. I'd like to say I have a one of a kind personality. You should take the Jung-Myers-Briggs personality test it described me almost perfectly (I'm an INTJ)
To Tellie
ReplyDeleteThanks for visiting my blog and leaving this great comment. I have not heard of the Jung-Myers-Briggs personality test but maybe I should take it also. I have always thought I was a blue personality but I found out this evening that I am a true yellow. Can't believe it but it must be true because I made that determination myself. What a surprise!
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